Son Moves Money To New Bank Account When Parents Said They'd Take It

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    Font - AITA for moving all of my money to a new bank account when my parents said they'd take money out of mine? Not the A-hole Here's the story, I'm an 18 year old guy and my brother is 12. Well he isn't actually my brother, he's my cousin adopted from birth because his mother was an addict and unfit to care for him. As such he has a very severe learning disability and his math and reading skills are that of someone half his age, best case scenario 4 years younger. He's been through summer scho
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    Rectangle - Recently my parents found a tutor program that specializes in learning disabilities and are going to give a shot at that. Problem is, my dad was laid off due to the pandemic and only my older sister and I are working. And as such they don't have too much money to be able to afford it, but really feel the need to help my brother and get him what he needs.
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    Font - Earlier this week my parents sat us down and told us that it's gotten to a point where my brother might be held back and he really needs that tutoring, and because we are his older siblings and they're not employed that my sister and I will foot some of the bill. We immediately objected to this, my sister said that they have no right to do that and I said that my brother is not my responsibility, but they shut us down and said that "we're a family and family helps each other". I realized
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    Font - The transfer went through today and my parents got a notification and began to get on me about it. I told them that it's my hard earned money and I cannot have it at risk of being garnished, but they yelled at me saying that I need to help contribute to my brother and told me about how they've tried for so long to help him out and for me to not stand up for him is very low of me. Now I'm feeling bad for this, I don't want my brother to suffer but I don't want them touching my money. 7.6k
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    Font - teresajs · 17h Prime Ministurd [434] 2 Awards NTA Also, if you're in the US, your brother is probably entitled to additional help (at no cost) through the school system. He would need a 504 or IEP due to his medical disability. The school would then help set up appropriate support and accomodations. Traditional tutoring may not help your brother. He needs specialized education based on his disability. 6 Reply 1 8.9k +
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    Font - NTA. As soon as you said it's your money and your 18, nope never TA. You are not his parent and paying for tutoring etc is a parent thing And it sounds like they didn't ask but told you that you were giving them the money. if they are out of work they can look at welfare etc options. You focus on getting your vital papers, getting a password on your credit so they can't take out credit cards etc in your name and getting you and your personal stuff out of that house. In fact if you have an
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    Rectangle - ForeverNugu · 17h NTA - You might want to be prepared for them to want you to start paying rent though if you don't already though. They might force the issue that way. G Reply 4 261 3 ...
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    Font - 3 2 Awards NTA for transferring the money. You're 18, and if you want to have your own bank account, that's totally appropriate. Ultimately they are the parents, and you are the child, and it's not appropriate for them to put that responsibility on you. You have a responsibility to achieve your own goals and live your own life, and you get to decide if you have bandwidth to help your brother. That said, if you've finished high school and are 18 and still living at home, it's reasonable to
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    Font - AJWordsmith • 17h Partassipant [2] NTA. You can't force someone to give up their money for something like this. They should apply for financial aid and/or start a GoFundMe for it. Stealing from your other kids to help the one kid is a sure way to breed contempt. G Reply 1 179 3 ...
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    Rectangle - galaxybookworm123 · 17h Partassipant [3] NTA - and I suggest your sister does the same thing if she has a joint bank account with them. + G Reply & 53
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    Font - pnutbuttercups56 · 17h Colo-rectal Surgeon [34] NTA. It's your money and they shouldn't take it without permission. Is your dad looking for a job? It may not have been easy to come to you to ask for that. If your parents are good to you and you want to help I think it should be your choice they shouldn't just take it. But if you feel badly, even though it is 100% not your responsibility to help you can choose to. O G Reply ↑ 28 3 + ...
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    Font - theDagman · 17h Certified Proctologist [23] NTA You're an adult and the money you earn belongs to you. Not your parents. They took on the job of parenting your cousin/brother, not you. You did the absolutely right thing for you in starting your own private bank account. Never give access to it to anyone. G Reply 1 12 3
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    Font - NTA It's your money this is really a no brainier. O 6 Reply ↑ 16 3
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    Font - gurutalreja · 17h NAH. you do need to control your money so NTA for moving to a bank account that only you control. it is legally yours. but looks like you are still living with them so you need to chip in with the household cost. think of it as paying for room and board. remember, you're an adult so legally they can throw you out as well. G Reply 4 -4 3 ...
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    Font - AAAtrip · 17h Partassipant [1] NTA. Parents gotta start working. This is coming from a parent. I would never ask this of my child. G Reply 金24 ...
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    Rectangle - Thyumos · 17h Pooperintendant [56] NTA Parenting their child is not your job or responsibility. G Reply ...
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    Font - Similar-Movie-8616 · 15h Partassipant [2] Nta but if they also ask u to move out and get ur own space they nta either G Reply

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